“‘Do you have any conflict enjoying the money
you have in a world with so much need?’
I had
been invited by a friend to attend an investment seminar and there were some
high rollers in the room. As I looked around,
however, I was surprised to see so many facial expressions that seemed confused
by the question. Obviously they
didn’t. I do. Every day.
When the
speaker went on to ask why not, most responded they had worked hard for what
they had and never thought twice about enjoying a disproportionate slice of the
world’s pie. The unspoken inference, of
course, is poor people don’t work as hard
so they are only getting what they deserve.
It’s only one of the lies
wealthy people tell themselves so they can ignore the needs of others as they
plunge headlong into their own amusements.
But you can only believe this if you don’t actually know people who have very little and not a lot of options to help
them move beyond it. And I don’t mean
know about them, but actually know
them individually.
I was
raised a law-and-order Republican. I
grew up with a high regard for discipline, hard work, and respect for
authority. If you live responsibly and
work hard you can get ahead in the world.
Disobey a policeman and you risk getting shot. Do something illegal and the consequences
should be severe.
But
that’s before I caught a glimpse of life through the eyes of an
African-American mother who not only fears the influences of the neighborhood on her son, but also any
interaction he might have with the police and how it might escalate because of
misunderstanding and fear. And I’ve
become good friends with a family of undocumented immigrants and see first hand
not only the hardships they endure, but also how our culture exploits them for its gain without rewarding them for their hard work.
These
relationships have caused me to reassess many of my lifelong conclusions and
it’s helped me come to grips with the lies affluent people use to justify their own comfort and suppress their generosity for people in
need. Almost everyone screams unfair
when they perceive circumstances have been rigged against them, but almost no
one cries foul when they benefit from that rigging.
These are
the lies you have to believe if you want to live callously in the world. To be truthful, I’ve actually benefited from
most of them and grabbed for them whenever I needed to suppress my compassion
for those in need. They allowed me for
many years to live unaffected by the
disproportionate distribution of resources in the world. Having them exposed has been a great gift to
my humanity and has allowed me to discover the joys of generosity.
Lie #1:
We all have the same opportunities; it’s just that some work harder. This is what lies behind
those confused expressions I saw at the investment seminar I mentioned at the
beginning of this article. We love the illusion that a child growing up in
south central Los Angeles has the same opportunities as those who grow up in
the suburbs or small town America.
Didn’t we solve inequality during the civil rights movements of the
60s? Can’t every child go to school,
apply herself, get a college degree, and find a better life? We do have enough stories of people who have
done it to think it’s true, not admitting that these are still the exceptional stories not the routine
ones.
Without
hope of a better life, the tools to get there, a support network to encourage
them, they will never recognize the
opportunities which may be at their disposal or be able to access them. There’s a reason why there are neighborhoods
we wouldn’t chose to live in and
schools we send our kids to.”
{Editing and Italics
Mine} To be continued....
HJC
|
Ric Webb | Shepherd
Heart’s Journey
Community
9621 Tall Timber
Blvd. | Little Rock, AR 72204
t +1.501.455.0296
|
hjcommunity.org
|
|
Heart’s Journey – Live
Generously and Love Graciously
|